May 28, 2007
MEMORIAL DAY
This evening we went to a nice local Memorial Day service. Actually, we almost didn't make it. I thought I knew which park it was at, but I was mistaken. We drove around for a long time trying to figure out where it was in town. I nearly gave up, but the last place we looked was correct. My husband teased me that I was ready to cut and run.
The ceremony was simple but nice. A local 8th grader read a lovely essay he wrote for the VFW's Patriot's Pen essay contest. And there's something completely humbling about being in the presence of POWs. I got choked up every time I looked at their group.
This year I don't quite have anything poetic to say about Memorial Day. But that doesn't mean that certain families haven't been on my mind all day long. This year I'll leave the poetry to PFC Becker:
We are soldiers.
We are soldiers in the United States Army.
We are trained to be all we can be.
We fight for the freedom of many citizens of the United States.
We are all ready to meet our fates.
We all volunteer to defend the red, white and blue.
Not only the flag, but for the citizens of our great country too.
Since our country's birth for all these years,
we have been trained to be the best on Earth.
Many times we have went to war.
We will be involved in many more.
Generation by generation soldiers continue to enlist.
Some of us will got to war and definitely be missed.
Some soldiers will return and some won't.
Those who do not, we won't forget and we hope you don't.
Many of us are going to Iraq.
Some of us won't be coming back.
We have loved ones we are leaving behind.
They will always be in our prayers, hearts and mind.
If we don't make it home safely at the end of the war,
just remember we died defending the beliefs of those of many more.
---PFC Gunnar Becker, November 2003
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my humble thanks.....
it's been a rough day.....
Posted by: debey at May 28, 2007 04:42 PM (GwmBc)
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They're always on our minds.
Posted by: Nicole at May 29, 2007 02:18 AM (vYQMs)
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That poem would be grammatically correct if it read "many times we have GONE to war" not "many times we have WENT to war." How about start defending the english language a little bit? I'd rather have that protected than a useless green zone in baghdad.
Posted by: Will at May 30, 2007 12:52 AM (soQkB)
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Fuck you, Will. That soldier died in service to his country, so he can use whatever fucking grammar he wants. You are seriously one of the nastiest, lowest people I've ever encountered. Grow up.
Posted by: Sarah at May 30, 2007 07:51 AM (vrR+j)
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Hey Will - How about defending human decency, you sick fuck?
You wanna know why I think the world is so twisted? Because good, decent, sometimes grammatically incorrect people like Gunnar Becker take a .50 cal round through the fucking head. To make it worse, educated dick beaters like you get to spout poison, spread hate, and dishonor others. Fuck you and fuck your grammar. You're still a worthless piece of shit whether or not you know how to utilize the English language.
Rot in Hell.
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May 27, 2007
WAR AND PEACE
I found a new blog today called The Shield of Achilles. He had a link to the
story behind his blog's name, which comes from the design on Achilles' shield in
The Illiad:
The engravings include two cities, one at peace and one at war. In the city at Peace, a man had been murdered, and an argument was ensuing over payment of blood-money. In the city at war, besiegers were divided over either sacking the city, or allowing it to pay a tribute for peace. Among other messages, one was clear: Times of War and Peace are both filled with conflict. Moreover, wartime is not always evil and peacetime is not always virtuous; while there is suffering in War, there is also courage, heroism and honor, and during times of Peace there is still murder, cowardice, and greed. Even people negotiating Peace sometimes have self-serving aims.
This is just genius. What a fabulous name for a blog.
One thing that has always frustrated me is the naive idea people have that war is the opposite of peace. All the people who want to Bring the Troops Home Now seem to think that if there's not officially a war going on, then there will be peace. But peace for whom? Before we went into Iraq in 2003, there was not peace in Iraq. There was no peace for Adnan Abdul Karim Enad, the man who tried to climb in Hans Blix's car to escape Iraq. There was no peace for the children who filled jails or the folks who went through a plastic shredder. There was no peace for the women raped by Uday or the families gassed by Saddam. Just because we weren't there, it doesn't mean everyone was flying kites and eating gumdrops.
Conversely, there's no "war" going on in North Korea or Zimbabwe, but I'm not sure I'd want to live in their "peace" either. France is at peace, but that doesn't help you if your car is set on fire during the night. And peace didn't do much for Pim Fortuyn either.
There will always be terrible, awful, inhumane, horrific things going on in the world. Most of them don't fall neatly under the bumper-sticker label of war. There is no such thing as peace; there's just calms between the storms.
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That was excellent, Sarah. I don't understand how people can miss this idea - as if lack of the title "war" suddenly makes us all smiling happy people holding hands. Or as if proper labeling suddenly makes us all slavering bloodthirsty beasts.
Posted by: airforcewife at May 27, 2007 01:25 PM (0dU3f)
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afw.."as if lack of the title "war" suddenly makes us all smiling happy people holding hands"...I actually think that there are a lot of people who *think* in words and phrases, and rarely if even consider the reality behind these verbal expressions.
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Hello Sarah!
Wow, someone called my writing "genius"!
Just by sheer luck I decided to check out some of my backlinks and found your blog. What a compliment! Thanks a lot.
Great web site you have too!
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May 26, 2007
READ
Good article written by a Muslim:
How to end 'Islamophobia'
Islamophobia could end when masses of Muslims demonstrate in the streets against videos displaying innocent people being beheaded with the same vigor we employ against airlines, Israel and cartoons of Muhammad.
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May 25, 2007
DONE
Once I got on a roll crocheting borders on my colored squares, I really got into it. I sewed the squares together as I went, so I could avoid having to do all the sewing at the end. Et voilà. I am really happy with how this project turned out. Charlie agreed to model the blanket, since he did such a good job
last time. He's so funny the way he averts his eyes any time we hold up the camera. He hates looking directly at it and will rotate his head any which way to avoid it.

Now if we just had a baby to wrap in the blanket...
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That is so cute! I need to get some pics of my pups up.
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Maybe next SpouseBuzz you can get me started on knitting? I can crochet up a storm, but TWO needles seems to be beyond me thus far.
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May 24, 2007
WOW
This article on illegal immigration is excellent:
The Promise of Home
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It makes some good points, but ignores the fact that people come here because they have *no opportunities* in their own countries. People are leaving their families behind to come work in the U.S. because the alternative for them is destitution...just like the Irish (and many others) in the 19th century. I'm certainly not arguing for tolerance of illegal immigration, but I am suggesting that the desire for migration to the U.S. is created by the ongoing failures of the home societies rather than by evil conspiracies among Americans.
It would of course be far better if these individuals had appropriate job opportunities in Mexico, and it's disappointing that the balance of offshored manufacturing is so overwhelmingly toward China rather than Mexico--somewhat surprising, too, given the logistical advantages of being 2-4 days away from U.S. markets by road/rail rather than 30-45 days away by water. The factors are probably deeply embedded in the economies and cultures of the respective countries, and it's not clear how much we as outsiders can do about them.
Posted by: david foster at May 25, 2007 06:16 AM (gguM0)
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That article makes no sense.
They don't want to go back home.
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May 23, 2007
THE KNIFE CYCLE
At the Milblogs Conference, Andi decided to kill me with her first question. I was expecting softballs, and instead I got a fastball at the head. She quoted an old blog post back to me, and I swear that for the first ten seconds of her speaking, I had no idea what she was talking about. I didn't recognize the writing as my own, and I completely panicked. As she read the very end of the post, I finally figured out what I had written, and then I had two seconds to react. I think I reacted poorly, so I'd like to revisit the question here.
Andi wanted to know what was going through my head when I wrote about this:
My husband's visible discomfort that he might not have another opportunity to put to use all he learned in Iraq, all he has digested and mulled over for two years, stands in stark contrast to the Iraqi quoted in this article:
“What was I going to wait for that would keep me on the force?” said Mohammed Humadi, a police captain who quit in August after one of his commanders was killed and beheaded. “Nothing was going to get any better. I have children, and if I were to sacrifice myself, it wouldn’t change anything.”
I struggle daily with the two opposing camps of the War in Iraq: those who say that the US has no business trying to set up a utopia halfway across the world, and those whose idealism bubbles over into dreams of playing Iraq in the World Cup. But the one thing I do know is that it's a knife in my heart that my husband would give his life for Iraq while this Iraqi would not.
I've had this feeling several times over the years, most notably one year after Saddam's statue came down. I wrote about the knife in my heart much more eloquently that year:
One year ago today, I was so happy for the Iraqis. I sat on the sofa at Fort Knox and cheered wildly as they tore that statue down. I wept for the Iraqis and their newfound freedom; now I weep for their newfound vengeance.
If you remember, the statue of Saddam wasn't the only thing to come down from that pedestal last year. The American flag an overzealous soldier hung up there was quickly taken down, lest the world think we came as conquerors. We were there to give Iraq to the Iraqis, and they've repaid us by burning our dead and hanging them from a bridge.
I felt the knife again when I saw protestors in Pakistan carrying a sign saying "Our religion does not allow unconditional freedom of speech."
The past five years have been a cycle of conviction and doubt.
I read this comments section today at Standing By, and I don't know what to say. I don't want to argue for or against the war anymore; it's just my job to help my husband as he fights it. The fact that he still wants to fight it speaks volumes to me. He's the one who's worked with Iraqis. He's the one who's been to Najaf. He's the one who has to work on cultural cross-breeding. I will defer to his opinion on this matter in nearly every case.
But the knife in the heart comes in the cold sweat of realizing that his convictions could someday take his life. The perspective comes when I realize that it's better to lose his life to convictions than to cancer, car crashes, or crap.
I struggle. I think that's jarring for some people because they want me to remain this caricature of a warmonger. The times when I express doubt about the war are the times I get the most comments from anti-war types, chipping away at my armor or jeering me for setting down my flag when my arms get tired of waving. But I'm a normal human being who thinks about issues, not just some automaton who does whatever Karl Rove says. I actually think about this war, and some days I feel stronger than others.
I assume the Iraqis do too, which is why it's not always fair to cherry-pick things to doubt.
I figure I may never know the lasting effect of Operation Iraqi Freedom. I could be long gone before we really know the legacy of the War on Terror. But I can hope, hope my husband's work will bear fruit.
And doubt some days too.
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Well said.
Doubting only shows youÂ’re a thinking, rational person, absolutely nothing wrong with that. I wonder if the anti crowd ever stops to think if we are actually doing the right thing. Doubt it.
Posted by: tim at May 23, 2007 07:19 AM (nno0f)
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As you frequently do, you expressed what I too feel about listening to people discuss the war. Some days I cannot sit idly by and listen to nonsense spewed by people who do not educate themselves about what is going on in Iraq (thus my comment at Standing By). Some days I cannot bring myself to listen to anything about the war from either side.
Thank you, Sarah, for letting me know that I am not alone in my struggle to understand this war and to understand what is or maybe right for us to do.
Posted by: Butterfly Wife at May 23, 2007 11:07 AM (/LiOe)
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This is Jan, from Standing By. You said exactly what I feel. Excellent post. Thank you.
Posted by: Jan Wesner at May 23, 2007 02:20 PM (5EgLa)
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Sarah - you expressed this one so well. It's exactly how I feel.
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Jan of Standing By again - I'm putting your post on my blog tomorrow (Thursday), giving you credit of course.
Posted by: Jan Wesner at May 23, 2007 06:48 PM (5EgLa)
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Sarah - this is why strangers like me read your blog. Because you're human. I would say super-human in that you and your husband both of a sense of 'self' that enables you to fight for something bigger than yourselves - and sacrifice for the freedom of others. Please remember, just as in the U.S., when the news media arrives on a scene, the first jackass that sees the camera becomes 'the man on the street' and they interview him. The terrorists propaganda that all Iraqis want us to leave, are fighting against us is b.s. - if that were TRUE, even remotely, there are 25 million Iraqis that would be hunting our soldiers down every day. They are not. In fact, millions of them chose to vote instead of fight against our brave men and women. It's easy to lose sight of the amazing things our soldiers are doing and the fact that Iraqis are desperate for peace because it's a constant drumbeat of negativity in the news. Remember, if one were to judge America from a nightly newscast on the rapes, murders, gang shootings and robberies in New York 24/7 - they would think New York was worse than Baghdad. Maybe it is, it just doesn't get as much media coverage. Heck, Philadelphia had 406 murders last year and has probably less than half the population of Baghdad! What's amazing to people like me is that people like YOU and YOUR HUSBAND chose service and sacrifice. That's amazing. Amazing. And the fact that some schmucks aren't grateful isn't fair, but unfortunately, not everyone is sensible enough to understand the road ahead and what you're fighting for on their behalf. Ignorance is bliss, and in some cases, really annoying and unfair. The point of the terrorists is to manipulate the world media to make 5 guys in a car bomb seem like "the norm" of the populace. They magnify one incident like that 10 times a day, and ignore all the car bombs that didn't go off. All the Iraqis that call in tips to capture terrorists. All the law-abiding Iraqis that send their children to school because they believe that education is important. The fact that people in Iraq are still shopping, eating out, going to school under the conditions set by the terrorists is AMAZING too. Don't lose sight of it because the media doesn't show it. They are there. The silent majority. I find that if I watch the news too often I feel a sense of dread and panic - and that's what news is designed for nowadays. Not for reporting context or facts, but for reporting things through a soda straw and expecting you to figure out the whole picture. I believe most Iraqis are thankful. I believe most Americans are thankful. It's just that our news media can't find a story unless it's against America, against our soldiers or against this particular president. Chin up. You two are doing something bigger than most people your age. And I for one, appreciate it. So thank you.
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May 22, 2007
REASON #__ WHY MY HUSBAND RULES
My husband is so smart it's scary. I'm fairly certain he'd choose dinner with Benajmin Netanyahu over Superbowl tickets any day of the week. The thicker and more boring the book, the more excited he is to read it. He never ceases to frighten me with his knowledge.
My husband's brain is like a sponge, and he completely absorbs anything he thinks is important enough to notice. Several years ago, he realized that understanding this Islam Stuff was important, so he set to work learning what he could about Muslims and Arabs. Someone like me can hold her own with names like Sadr and Zawahiri and can handle basic conversations about the region, but my understanding of Islam and the War on Terror is positively pedestrian compared to my husband's. He set out to learn this stuff, and I'll be goldarned if he didn't learn it.
The Army hires college professors to teach the history and culture portions of Civil Affairs training. The other day in class, the professor admitted that my husband knows Islamic history better than he does, after my husband gently corrected him on a couple of historical points.
Because my husband thinks this knowledge is crucial, he doesn't slack off. He knows names and dates and Mohammed's lineage and tidbits I can't even begin to fathom. He knows more about Tajikistan than anyone from Missouri should ever need to know, and he's already speaking basic Farsi sentences despite the fact his language course doesn't start until September. The man is phenomenal.
Our fifth wedding anniversary is a couple weeks away, and I can't help but think about the time I heard Neal Boortz say that you don't even know what love is until you've been married for five years. I think he's right. The qualities that made me fall in love with my husband back in 1999 -- the fact that he wanted to talk about Sartre and Charlemagne at frat parties and that he was captain of the College Bowl team -- have only grown more pronounced over the past five years.
Love is knowing how truly lucky you are to have such a person in your life.
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awwwwwww. I know what you mean.
Posted by: airforcewife at May 23, 2007 04:44 AM (0dU3f)
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Well, we all knew he was uber-smart. He married you, didn't he?
Oh, and in case I miss it in the next bit - Happy 5th Anniversary. :-)
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If I didn't know better, I would be highly suspicious that you were talking about MY husband. And having been married for 8 years now, I certainly love my husband more today than I did 3 years ago, and my love for him only continues to grow. It is wonderful.
Posted by: Butterfly Wife at May 23, 2007 11:16 AM (/LiOe)
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can you talk with my wife? ....just kidding.
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KNITTING WOES
The heavy lifting is done.

But the perfect method I had concocted for how to put all the squares together ended up looking like absolute crap. I thought I could just crochet the squares together, forming a nice border between each one. I didn't count on it looking like garbage. So we're at a standstill, and I've moved on to another project to calm down a bit.
I think what I will end up doing is crocheting a border around each square and then sewing them together. Not something I am looking forward to doing, but oh well.

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May 20, 2007
FAREWELL
Annika, who will quit blogging in exactly six and a half hours, isn't going out with Miss America waves and reruns. She managed to find these hilarious quotes from
rockers who are wising up to the fact that their benefit concerts don't really help much of anything.
Annika, you will be missed.
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GOOD CELEB BEHAVIOR
I almost didn't want to go see
Spiderman 3 because of the crappy behavior of the lead actors. Nothing says "hype our movie" like the actors
talking about how much they resented having to make a third one. God forbid you have to be in a movie that people actually want to go see. How tragic. Sheesh, I was almost too annoyed to go. The older I get, the less I can stomach celebrities.
But we were treated to a real class act when Billy Blanks showed up at SpouseBUZZ Live. He acted like the military spouse audience was the celebrity, which was downright touching. He was super-nice, and I hope he knows how much we appreciated his visit.
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DISGUSTED
Last night we watched
The Last King of Scotland, and I was so disgusted at the end of the movie that I lost sleep over it. Yes, I know the story portrayed is fiction, but Idi Amin was most certainly real.
What disgusts me the most is that there are rulers out there like Amin, yet people persist in calling President Bush evil. Have we no sense of evil? People in North Korea are eating children, but some American citizens can't stand to be associated with the American flag.
Google gets 1,850,000 hits for "George Bush evil" but only 178,000 for "Idi Amin evil." 65,700 for Arafat; 623,000 for Kim Jong-Il; and 264,000 for Mugabe.
We make me sick.
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I think you're missing the larger point here. The US did not go into Iraq to get rid of a cruel ruler. The war was because of WMD which have not yet materialized. The reason for war has now morphed into the whole "getting rid of a cruel ruler".
On the other hand, if we are talking about cruel rulers and exploitation of people, why has the US only targeted Iraq, when there are numerous other countries out there in the same - if not worse - conditions: Sudan, North Korea, Tibet, etc.
Posted by: aidan at May 22, 2007 04:18 AM (KFGe9)
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On the contrary, I think you're missing the point. The word "evil" shouldn't be associated more frequently with "Bush" than with honest-to-god despots. No matter what one thinks of Operation Iraqi Freedom, the word "evil" really shouldn't enter into it.
Posted by: Sarah at May 22, 2007 05:27 AM (vrR+j)
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Forget it, Sarah. He's just trying to feed the meme.
He probably didn't even read your article, just saw "Bush" and "evil" and then started pasting...
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May 19, 2007
NOT GROKKING
I don't understand the illegal immigrant issue.
Who is it who's arguing for illegals to stay here and get citizenship? And why do they matter? What does amnesty do for the US? Does it improve our relationship with Mexico? If so, why do we care? Does it improve our relationship with legal Hispanics? I thought many of them poll against amnesty.
What is the reason we haven't built that fence yet and that we've got an amnesty bill in Congress right now?
I'm serious here; I really don't grok.
Neal Boortz says it's the votes, stupid. He thinks that both parties are racing to be the one who helps illegals so that when they can vote, they'll vote for the party that got them in. Boortz is an awful cynical guy, but is that right? Is that the reason our elected officials are acting like fools?
I don't think the American public as a whole supports amnesty. John Hawkins found out that a mayor in Pennsylvania who's running on a strict anti-illegal platform won both the Republican nomination and the Democrat write-in! He got 94% of the Republican vote. I think the American people want that fence built and they want our existing laws to be upheld.
So what's the deal with our politicians then?
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I watched Glenn Beck a couple of nights ago where he was arguing against amnesty, for the fence and border patrol etc with Geraldo Rivera. It was the most unusual argument I've ever seen because although Rivera was supposedly arguing for amnesty, he really couldn't come up with ONE good reason for it. He danced around the issue for a while, called Beck a racist for being against it, but really said nothing. This is what always happens, it seems. I have always seen it as a no-brainer...protect the border!
Posted by: Nicole at May 19, 2007 10:18 AM (vYQMs)
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I can actually think of one instance in which I would support amnesty for people who are already here illegally - if, in order to earn (that's right - EARN) their citizenship they perform significant community service within a specific time frame to ameliorate the crime of breaking the immigration laws in the first place.
Military service for at least two years might be one option, but it certainly should not be the only one. And the "we already have a life, we don't want to pick up and move to earn citizenship" argument just would not wash - how ridiculous! You BROKE THE LAW! Maybe it was for a good reason - like a starving person who steals a loaf of bread. But mitigating circumstances do not change the fact that when you make a conscious decision to break the law, you also make a decision that whatever you gain from breaking the law are worth the consequences.
I have to admit to being quite biased on this issue - my husband's family escaped the Soviet Union under threat of gulag and came here legally. And if he can do it... you know what I mean? This is rather personal for us.
Also, if we're going to bend over backwards to make things nice and easy for people to enter the United States illegally, I darn well expect Mexico to quit its whining and demands about extraditing Dog the Bounty Hunter.
Posted by: airforcewife at May 19, 2007 11:07 AM (0dU3f)
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Near as I can figure, the politicians are bucking for the future votes. Even if the illegals are never legalized, their children born here are citizens. This is a fight for future generations of votes, and which party those generations will view favorably.
Not to mention cheap labor. Both parties must take into account businesses, and their labor concerns. Illegals work hard/lousy jobs for low pay, that is a fact. Remove that source of labor and the costs go up across the board.
The majority of us are non-politicians, so we look at the situation without considering the fact that we must suck up to a large growing population to keep our government jobs.
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May 18, 2007
LOSING TOUCH
My husband and I have been discussing parenting constantly since we decided to start a family. Our philosophy is that our job as parents is to turn babies into adults. Our child will be a child for about 1/5th of his life, so the real goal is to mold him into a good adult. Thus we constantly discuss which ways we think we can best achieve this goal.
One thing that does worry me is handing the kid over to a school. I know enough Neal Boortz and John Stossel to be completely disillusioned with public schools. But we also don't want to homeschool, so we generally discuss ways we can supplement our future child's education.
This story about elementary school kids using calculators is just sad. I think technology is great, but it's also taken us far away from the fundamentals. I remember getting a pizza one night and the cash register girl accidentally typed in $200 instead of $20. She couldn't for the life of her figure out how much change to give us without the cash register doing it for her; she had to hunt around for a calculator to do the math. Of course, at my job in college I also saw one girl count on her fingers how many hours her 12-8 work shift was. Sigh.
It's not only a problem with math though. Spell Check has killed our ability to bother looking words up. I had another blogger ask me how I could stand Movable Type since it doesn't have spell check, but if I'm unsure about a word, it only takes ten seconds to open m-w.com and look it up. That's way better than Back In The Olden Days when I actually had to do my homework sitting with a dictionary and a thesaurus. When I was teaching college English, I was just happy if students' papers didn't look like they'd text messaged them to me! Yeah, LOL is not appropriate for a college paper, folks.
We have so much power at our fingertips these days -- to be able to find cosines, definitions, and historical figures with a touch of a button -- but as wonderful as this technology is, I can't help but think sometimes that we're losing our grasp on basic smarts.
Of course, this is coming from the girl who patted herself on the back repeatedly a few weeks ago because she used the Pythagorean Theorem instead of a tape measure to figure out how big her knitting project would be. Look at me, I'm a flippin' math genius.
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I agree. I am always looking up words on m-w.com. even when I am reading online I will highlight a word and paste into the search feature. even if I know the word and know that the writer is using it inappropriately, I look it up anyway.
Posted by: Butterfly Wife at May 18, 2007 03:10 PM (RX8Nf)
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Yeah, I know the feeling, Sarah. What bums me out even more ius that kids use calculators and haven't a clue why it does the things it does, in form or function. Not only are they doing things with technology they don't understand, but they don't even understand the technology itself.
Posted by: deskmerc at May 18, 2007 06:02 PM (obWV/)
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Thanks Sarah. I have gone over and over this, and although some would tell me that homeschooling is the way to go, it just isn't for our family.
And the spelling thing...ugh! It's funny, because I don't even trust spellcheck. When I go back and proofread things I write for school, I catch errors I've made that spellcheck doesn't catch.
It just infuriates me how much our kids aren't learning in school anymore. Do you know that my mother-in-law told me the other night that history isn't even being taught anymore? ::Sigh::
Posted by: Robin at May 18, 2007 06:09 PM (XTKEz)
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Have you ever given a cashier some change to make your change round up to ... say a quarter? and they have already typed in what you gave them... and they get a glassy look... and you have to explain to them you gave them two pennies to make your 23 cents a quarter. weird.
Posted by: jake silver at May 19, 2007 10:57 AM (7wSqR)
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Here's a good one...we went out to dinner with the hubby's parents last Tuesday. As we were leaving the restaurant, my father-in-law went back into the restaurant to ask for change for a $20. The girl actually asked him, "so you want five $5 bills?"
He told us about that, and we just lost it. It's so sad!
Posted by: Robin at May 20, 2007 05:27 PM (XTKEz)
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Sara,
From someone working in the schools, I can say that if you go visit different schools, you will find one that is good. They are out there. These days, teachers feel so much pressure for No Child Left Behind that it is hard to teach art, music, etc. History is taught in the schools I work in though. Wait until you try to find a preschool! That is the hard part. Do you want Montessori, Reggio, child-centered, academic...a lot of options! I definitely know home-schooling isn't for me even though I give credit to parents who do it AND give their children the social interaction they need. Anyway, don't lose hope on our schools...teachers are trying! So much of a child's success stems from the motivation they get at home, and for you all, that will be enough to make sure your child is successful
Posted by: Stephanie at May 22, 2007 01:59 AM (+bp0U)
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A couple of really kind people came up to me at the Milblogs Conference to tell me I was articulate. (Sadly, no one thought to comment on how clean I am.) But I just watched the
video interview Mary Katherine Ham put together, and I must say I don't see it. I seriously think I need some botox to stop the horrible contortions my face makes when I speak. Ugh, I look ridiculous. Do I look like that all the time when I talk?
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Oh for cryin' out loud.....you were - ARE - beautiful, and you did a great job at the conference.
You're just very animated. And that's a good thing. At least I hope it is, cause that's what folks tell me......
:-)
Posted by: Tammi at May 18, 2007 07:37 AM (Bitcf)
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You don't look ridiculous, you look charming.
Believe me, you don't want botox.
p.s. are you wearing contacts? You look beautiful!
Posted by: Kelly's mom at May 18, 2007 11:07 AM (Sjrpx)
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You looked very clean to me! But then I only saw the live feed on Mudville and it was only 1 inch by 1 inch.
Posted by: Butterfly Wife at May 18, 2007 03:13 PM (RX8Nf)
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Yes, you always look like that when you talk. But the good news is that you are stunning - especially when you make those "horrible contortions."
I felt like I actually got to see you in person for a few minutes! Man, I miss you.
Posted by: Erin at May 20, 2007 03:41 AM (XRza7)
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WHEREIN THE 'SPHERE MAKES MY HEART BURST
Over the weekend at SpouseBUZZ Live, I sat in on a seminar on how to start your own blog. One of the wives asked if it was possible to set her new blog to private so only her friends and family could see it. We bloggers all paused: of course it's
possible to do that, but as I sat in the audience surrounded by ArmyWifeToddlerMom, airforcewife and her husband, and with CaliValleyGirl glued to my hip, we all wondered why on earth you'd
want to.
When I have childrearing questions, do you think I call people from my real life? Nope, I call ArmyWifeToddlerMom. When I had military questions during deployment, Bunker Mulligan was my man. Amritas helps with linguistics, Deskmerc helps with physics, and Annika is the go-to for all things Goldie Hawn.
It is so strange, this my need of you.
CaliValleyGirl told this wife in the audience that setting her blog to private would effectively cut off her chances of finding a best friend. The thing is, we know more about our blog friends than we usually do about people in our real lives. I follow ArmyWifeToddlerMom's parenting life far more closely than even my neighbors'. I know my blog friends' likes and dislikes before we've ever met in person. When The Girl showed up in Germany, she knew everything about me before I ever picked her up at her hotel. When I asked CaliValleyGirl at the Milblogs Conference if she was surprised we were getting along so well, she shrugged and replied that she was not surprised at all because she already knew she liked me.
I thought about this weekend's conversation a lot this week as I read about the Lileks family's trip to Disneyworld. I have read The Bleat nearly every single day since Jan. 23, 2004. I know everything that's happened to him over the past three years, and I know far more about his life than any of my real world friends' lives. He is my friend, whether he knows it or not, and if he ever set his blog to private I would weep like a baby.
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All I can say is AMEN!!! I have been reading your blog for about a month now and I really enjoy it. I think if we ever meet in person we could get along. To be honest I do not want my friends and family reading my blog. This is my place to vent and be me without the worries of soemone taking something personal.
Posted by: Reasa at May 18, 2007 04:55 PM (JfF5d)
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Tee hee

I remember how "stalker"-ish I felt after the first time we met!
Posted by: The Girl at May 18, 2007 08:43 PM (3xdWY)
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Not necessarily. Everyone is gonna hate me.
cert4examHit the jackpot.,
SUNHow did it come to this?,
OthersWatch me..
Posted by: kimi at December 22, 2008 09:28 PM (60F6T)
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May 17, 2007
PRINCE HARRY
Yesterday I read about how Prince Harry will not be deploying to Iraq, and I really felt bad for the guy. He's trained and prepared with his unit, and now he has to watch his unit leave without him. Any true soldier would find that heartbreaking.
But today I heard that other British families are ticked off about the revelation, saying that Harry is no more indespensible than their sons are.
I too have come to this conclusion, that my husband's life is no more valuable than anyone else's in the military. If I believe this war needs to be fought, I cannot in good faith keep my husband from the battlefield. If he doesn't go, someone else will be sent in his place; just because that person doesn't share my bed doesn't mean he doesn't share a bed with someone else whose heart breaks to see him go.
That said, I think the Prince Harry situation is an entirely different issue altogether. To my understanding, no one is saying that Prince Harry's life is more valuable than any other soldier's. What they are saying is that Prince Harry puts his unit in danger. Apparently they've determined there's a $678,000 bounty on Harry's head. He's so high profile that he endangers the soldiers around him, a fact which is not lost on jokesters who've bought the I'm Harry t-shirt. If my husband could somehow put his soldiers' lives in jeopardy, then and only then would I say he shouldn't deploy.
Harry appears ready to sacrifice for his country. But right now the biggest sacrifice he can make is to stand aside and let his unit deploy without him. The Brits should try to understand this.
MORE TO GROK:
Tammi has thoughts on Harry too.
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My daughter got the best lesson I think is available from this immediately - if the media had shut the hell up from the start and let the boy deploy like he wants to and has been fighting to do, there wouldn't be an issue because no one would really know he was there.
I wasn't enthralled with Harry's wearing of the Nazi costume to a party, and he seems to play very, very hard. But all that aside, the real problem in this case seems to be with a media that has no understanding of propriety.
Harry's Uncle deployed to the Falkan Islands, so it's not as if there's no precedent for royalty serving in a war zone. Harry's got a lot of dharma to fulfill. I'm sure there's something that he can do, and I certainly hope they find it and that the media keeps its trap shut when Harry does it.
That's a tremendously incoherent comment, I know. Sorry - I've been sick this week.
Posted by: airforcewife at May 18, 2007 10:48 AM (0dU3f)
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Here's my uninformed thoughts on Harry: the Army is good for turning wayward young men around. Lots of guys who join were into bad ideas, but the Army helps them shape up and focus. I had several students in Germany who had been to jail before the Army, and they had learned their lesson and were trying to make something of themselves. And they had nowhere near the pressure that Harry has! I hope the Army's been good for making Harry grow up, and I hope they can find a good job for him.
Posted by: Sarah at May 18, 2007 05:28 PM (vrR+j)
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Good call. I think the class warfare types will try to turn this into an issue (which it will only be if the media cooperate...ergo..."Some say Harry exercises privilege".
In someways this is the "I'm a PC and I'm a Mac" commercial with Harry being the PC. Being the behemoth, there are WAY many more idiozealots writing code to put a virus on Harry the PC than Hobarth the Mac. Hence the six digit price on his head.
I wouldn't want to sharing that foxhole.
Posted by: Tim at May 18, 2007 06:55 PM (E9coD)
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Despite the 'fact' that Prince Harry isn't now going to Iraq, we're betting he does feature in both that arena and Afghanistan, but without the media hullabaloo. He's no fool and neither are the military officers and soldiers alike, all know full well the consequences and implications of any 'no-show' in circumstances he's trained for and relishes. It's worth noting that the 'I'm Harry' T-shirts (www.imharry.com) are more in demand now than before. So maybe the message that we're ALL Harry now has achieved proper cult status among the armed forces everywhere. Thats what I call bravery, defiance and the best humour in the world. Keep doing your bit as decoys and keep the enemy confused! We're proud of you.
Algy
Posted by: Algy Johns at May 29, 2007 03:05 AM (3Iar2)
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May 15, 2007
STILL UP
Jetlag rears its ugly head. I'm back home, but my sleep cycle still thinks it's in L.A. Not good.
Back when I first started blogging, I cared a lot more about trackbacks and cross-linking than I do now. I think the novelty wore off for me over time, and conversely I haven't had a trackback in nearly a year now. But I was excited to get an email from a blogger saying he too has written about the professor who forwarded George Washington's speech. Hooray for cross-linking, I say. It's been harder and harder for me to break out of my blog coterie, and I welcome other bloggers sending me links to stuff they've written. It's a good way to find new blog friends.
Check out the rest of the Lamplighter blog when you have time.
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FYI - MuNu doesn't have "trackbacks" anymore. At least not that we can see.
(glad you're home. y'all did a great job last weekend!)
Posted by: Tammi at May 16, 2007 09:06 AM (Bitcf)
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Ah ha! So I'm not as big of a loser as I thought I was! Thanks for the info.
Posted by: Sarah at May 16, 2007 11:11 AM (vrR+j)
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Ok, I learned a new word today.
"coterie"
I confess I had to "google" it.
Coterie (kote-er-ee) n an exclusive group of
friends with a common interest. [French]
Sarah is teaching us French...how cool is that!
Posted by: Navy Wife Wendy at May 17, 2007 05:23 PM (CfMHF)
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May 14, 2007
GUNBLOGGING
I enjoyed
Annika's gun interview. I will miss her when she stops blogging in a week. And my husband and I really need to buckle down and do some firearms research soon. We've been talking about it since we returned from Germany, but we haven't done anything about it yet. And it needs to get done before he deploys.
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